How To Resolve Unequal Sexual Desire
What Is A Healthy Sexual Appetite?
A healthy sexual appetite is when you want sex and you really enjoy it big time. A high sex drive isn’t really bad. But when sex becomes unhealthy it leads to complications with a person’s sex life and life outside of sex. The beginning of a relationship usually comes with a high sex drive which is OK. It becomes an issue when sex becomes the number one priority in a person’s life and this is often linked to serious mental disorders.
When Does Sex Become Unhealthy?
Sex therapists opined that sex can be therapeutic for some people suffering from anxiety, poor self-esteem, shame, and other negative feelings. However such feelings can skyrocket sex drive to a dangerous phase. And that is when sex becomes unhealthy.
The term “sexual addiction” is used to describe the behavior of a person who has an unusually intense sex drive or an obsession with sex. You want to have sex but not necessarily enjoy it. Sex and the thought of sex tend to dominate the sex addict’s thoughts. This sexual habit makes it difficult to work or participate in healthy personal relationships.
Behaviours Of Sexual Addiction
Intense thoughts about sex
Sex becomes unhealthy when a person with a sexual addiction has excessive, intense thoughts and behaviors surrounding sex. In other words, these unhealthy sexual habits lead to personal anguish or negative incursion into other areas of life. For instance, daydreaming about your cute co-worker is quite normal and may be healthy. But missing work to watch pornography may be a sign of something abnormal.
Sex addicts engage in distorted thinking. They often give a good reason for their behavior. Also similarly blame others for their problems. They live in denial of the problem and provide excuses for their actions.
Sexual addiction also is linked with risk-taking. A person with a sex addiction participates in different forms of sexual activity. Regardless of the potential for negative and dangerous consequences. In addition to damaging the addict’s relationships and interfering with work and social life, a sexual addiction also puts the person at risk for emotional and physical harm.
For some people, sex addiction develops into unlawful activities. Such as exposing oneself in public, prostituting, and rape. Others are, making indecent phone calls, stalking, or molestation. Most times sex addicts don’t essentially become sex offenders.
No emotional bond
Generally, a person with a sex addiction gains little satisfaction from sexual activity and forms no emotional bond with his or her sex partners. He also often can’t control his behavior even in the face of undesirable financial, health, social, and emotional consequences.
When To Face The Truth
It is important to face the truth when sex becomes unhealthy. First, ask yourself if your sexual drive is noticeably different from your normal. Then try to identify possible causes. For instance, find out whether it is negatively affecting your happiness, relationship, or life. First, a good place to start is to take it up in a loving way with your partner. Second, if you’re in a relationship, find out how your partner feels about your sex drive. Are the two of you completely in opposite directions or are things matching up pretty well? If you and your partner feel great about how much sex you want, chances are your sexual drive is just fine. Enjoy the intimacy.
But if you don’t have equal sexual desire, you may need to see a professional. Talking to a professional can help resolve the sensitive areas of high sexual overdrive.
Treatment For Sexual Addiction
Several sex addicts tend to live in denial. Treating addiction is dependent on the person accepting and admitting that he or she is in dire straits. In many cases, it takes major negativity such as the loss of a job, divorce, or arrest, to make the addict admit his or her problem.
Treatment of sexual addiction focuses on controlling addictive behavior and helping the person develop a healthy sexual drive. This includes counseling on healthy sexuality, one-on-one therapy, and marriage or family therapy.
In some cases, medications to treat obsessive-compulsive disorder may be used to curb the compulsive nature of sex addiction. These drugs could include Prozac and Anafranil.
Sex Drive Is Personal
Sex drive means different things to different people. It is highly personal! Sexual desire becomes an issue when it’s causing you pain, tearing your life apart, or hurting your relationship with a partner. If you’re experiencing any of these, it’s essential to find out the reasons why. You may need to seek professional help.
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